Learning to know oneself and observing one’s emotions
Taking the time to (re)learn about oneself, observe one’s thoughts and behaviors in order to rebalance and stabilize one’s emotions.
If when we experience an emotion of fear – whether it manifests as rejection, anger, impatience, pain, frustration – we become aware of its origin, then we are able to respond to it consciously.
The idea is not to be carried away by one’s feelings, so as not to lose self-control.
Understanding the origin of an emotion
Evaluating the negative effects it has on ourselves and the people around us.
Reducing its intensity by giving it a space of listening and love.
Accepting our mistakes and imperfections.
Accepting our tendency to overreact to certain stimuli.
Transforming it into positive energy to improve our daily life.
When we learn to observe the (negative) effects of our emotions on ourselves and others, we learn to manage them differently so as not to be overwhelmed by their presence again.
The search for recognition and belonging to a group
It may seem difficult for us to accept not being seen or recognized by others. This can trigger a deep emotion related to failure. In fact, it is a manifestation of our ego trying to cover up and neutralize a feeling of abandonment. By seeking approval and acceptance from the outside world, the ego believes it can alleviate this pain and create an (artificial) sense of love.
Success, domination, power, and envy
Observing the emotions that success or recognition from a group or society provoke, we can see that they are fleeting because success changes rapidly. That’s why it can be difficult for those who experience it to accept its change. The excitement of success having no end, humans always want more, without ever achieving real satisfaction. When success diminishes or is completely lost, emotions can turn in the opposite direction and take the form of sadness or deep depression.
The artificial good that success provides becomes a quest for power because we seek to preserve it through manipulation. Power generates intense emotions because we believe it brings absolute security, allows us to possess everything we desire, and eliminates the feeling of separation (stemming from the belief that we are separate from the Whole). No means are spared to obtain it, even if it harms others. Once power is acquired, there’s always a craving for more, as the existential void is never filled. Unfortunately, it doesn’t bring happiness because the one who possesses it feels increasingly alone, those around them don’t act out of genuine love but rather flatter and obey for personal gain.
Envy is a negative emotion because desiring what others have leads to unhappiness and bitterness.
The desire to control one’s life and the lives of others arises from the ego, which feels lonely and vulnerable and believes it can cover these feelings by exerting control over everything. This results in a false sense of security.
Learning to know and love oneself
Self-awareness helps neutralize the demands of the ego. When we observe ourselves in a pattern created by the ego, it’s already the first step towards diminishing its power over our emotions.
Most human suffering arises from the ego’s resistance to what life places in our path.
So, when we reach a state where neither success nor failure elicits strong emotions, we make significant progress in freeing ourselves from the ego’s enslavement.
The idea is to focus on positive emotions that are not ego-based, such as compassion, generosity, service, and helping those in need.
These are emotions that stem from the Love that is our essence, thus bringing about peace and harmony within and without.